Gaining Traction: Starting Over After the Death of Your Life Partner

If you think this is just another book about coping with the loss of a partner… You’re in for a surprise! Based on her long-running class “Gaining Traction,” grief counselor Vicki Panagotacos delivers a step-by-step program that will open your eyes to a new way of life. Panagotacos helps you think clearly about what you want — and don’t want — as you move forward after loss. Tapping into personal stories told in her classroom, backed by research that reveals what secretly drives many of our decisions, Panagotacos gets you emotionally prepared to go after the life you deserve.

How Will this Book Help Me?

So, if you have a busy calendar but little joy… if you’re constantly second-guessing yourself… if the thought of another relationship makes you cringe… by the end of this book you will:

  • have the tools to harness anxiety and deal with uncertainty
  • be ready to commit to experiences not previously considered; and
  • know when to say “yes” or “no” to that new relationship.

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Professional/Peer Review


“As a professional who has focused on helping those who experience loss, and as a person who is in my third year of grieving the loss of my spouse, I recommend Gaining Traction without reservation. This book is an invaluable resource for anyone who has lost a life partner and particularly good for those who are beyond their first year after loss and think there is something wrong with them because they don’t feel better. Counselors will also find the book this user-friendly volume a “must-have” reference.” Janice Nadeau, PhD, FT

Psychologist, Marriage and Family Therapist

“Vicki Panagotacos has an uncanny ability to tune in to serve her clients, which makes her one of the best grief practitioners I have known. She is eloquent and accurate in meeting each individual where they are emotionally—offering courage and hope for healing. Her caring, supportive and wise presence has translated well into her book, Gaining Traction. Read it and then pass it on to another you know and love.”
Lyn Prashant, PhD, FT

Somatic Grief Specialist

“Panagotacos has listened well and thought clearly and compassionately about how to gently guide individuals back toward a full life after the death of their mate. Readers will feel Vicki’s understanding of their complex experience and be enriched by her suggestions for imaginative thought and action. Excellent for clients, pastors, therapists and counselors. I will recommend this book to colleagues and friends with a full heart.” Eric Greenleaf PhD

Psychologist and Director, Milton H. Erickson Institute of the Bay Area

“Vicki has been a gift to us here at Pathways Home Health and Hospice, and Gaining Traction has been the foundation of our 2nd year partner loss program she helped create. Her book provides inspiration and a much needed resource for those who are challenged to rebuild their lives without their loved ones.  I am thrilled that others will have the benefit of her meaningful and helpful book!” Chris Taich, MSW, LCSW

Director of Bereavement Services, Pathways Home Health and Hospice

“Gaining Traction offers the bereaved spouse/partner hope on their grief journey and practical insight into how to move forward in a healthy manner. The reader will appreciate the reflections of those having struggled in their first year of loss and their transformation after participating in the author’s second year class.”
Brad Leary, LCSW, CT

Director Social Services and Counseling, Hospice of the Valley, San Jose, Ca

“Vicki Panagotacos brings a wealth of knowledge and compassion to this book.  She clearly understands the emotions and challenges one faces when dealing with their grief. Gaining Traction provides helpful tips and suggestions for how one can navigate their future.”
Dwight Wilson

CEO, Mission Hospice, San Mateo, CA


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  • Bulk Order for Hospices and other healthcare providers, please contact Vicki at: or (650) 793-0868